Oh love, I know. The idea of changing your life when you're already stretched to capacity can make you want to curl up and take a nap. “I know something needs to change, but I'm already overwhelmed. I don't know how the hell I'm supposed to change it.” God, I get it. Because when we imagine change, we rarely imagine changing one tiny thing, do we? We imagine the whole bloody hill. Leaving the relationship, finding somewhere to live, sorting the money and telling the kids. Changing jobs,...

Dear One Circling a Decision, Here's something that makes the gap between "I know what to do and I'm just not doing it" so darn difficult. You've got at least two voices in your head (let's be honest, it's often a whole committee!) One voice says “I want more than this. Something needs to change. I don't want to keep living like this. I'm going to DO something about it.” Then another voice turns up - usually right before you're about to take meaningful action “Hang on. Is this really a...

I’ve heard some version of this loop a few times in recent weeks, which is usually a sign – we need to talk about this. Because I’ve been in this place more times than I care to remember - watching yourself go from “I cannot do another year of this” to “It’s really not that bad” without a single bloody thing actually changing. And see it all the time with women I work with. It can keep us circling in ambivalence for YEARS! Here’s one of my many merry-go-rounds – In the last few years...